When it comes to a ladies pleasure, there are many ways you
can ignite her arousal. However, few women have the gratification of
experiencing the full capacity of pleasure and it is
not something taught in school. Many women have solely clitoral
arousal, and are left with the rest of the labia, inner uterine walls and gspot
untouched.
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Many guys wish they knew how to pleasure a woman, and many
women have been programmed to believe that it is not possible for them! But ladies, I’m telling you,
it is totally possible for you and ALL of women to not only consider having a
female ejaculation, but experiencing it to the point of having them all the
time. And once the ball starts rolling,
it doesn’t stop (unless you’ve abstained for a while from sexual interaction,
and by then you’ll need to open the gates again as though it’s your first
time).
When it comes to self pleasure, or pleasuring another woman,
you want to get the outer lips aroused and awakened. Then you want to ignite
the inner lips, outer labia, inner labia, and the skin attaching to the
clitoris, but never touching the tip right away. Many women have all sorts of
ways of enjoyment for this part of their body, and it is their body, so you want to first ask and then listen. Don’t go into
this part of her body expecting that you know everything and that you know what
she wants in that very moment. She may change what she desires every time
you’re together, and if you go into the experience acting as though you’re the
master of HER body, you may be left frustrated that you never turned her on.
This is where listening, true listening, is most important.
After you’ve relaxed her on the outside, you want to get in
contact with her inside, but ONLY after she’s been aroused and feels ready for
you to do so. If she starts asking you, then you know she’s really ready, but
if possible, make her wait a little bit. A little frustration on her end is
good for her, it makes her more ready and aroused than she might be if you dove
in before she was ready. So pay attention to her body, and listen.
For every woman, she has a special spot on the inside of her
yoni, at the top; like the roof of the mouth that has the same or similar
consistency as the skin inside the mouth. But it will be either hard or gushy
and like a ball that you can push forward and back. If its firm then it may
mean she’s never had her gspot massaged before, or in a while. Her layers need
some coaxing to relax and become soft.
The best way to relax her gspot:
You’ll want to start with firm pressure pulling up, almost
towards yourself as though you are lifting a basketball with one finger. The
middle finger is often the best to use for its thickness in holding the point
and its width that you’ll be sure you’re on the right spot. You may need to search around until you find
the right spot, and every woman’s special spot is located differently inside
her body. It could be close to the main entry, or all the way deep inside, so
make your adjustments as you need and stick to the goal. After you’ve found it,
and after you’ve placed pressure here, you’ll want to slide in and out while
placing pressure. It will probably hurt her at first, and you’ll want to sooth
her by letting her know she is loved, safe and very beautiful. If it doesn’t hurt her all the better, but if
its firm and hard most likely it will be.
From here you want to be creative. Massage the outside at the same time
you’re massing the inside, perhaps go back and forth or continue mutually. Once she has one cliteral orgasm, she is
getting closer to having a gspot orgasm, and even closer to having an
ejaculation.
If you feel small amounts of water releasing you’ll know
she’s beginning to open up the floodgates, and soon she’ll be releasing water
all over the place. You want to be sure you have at least one large towel; two
or three is preferable as your woman might have a lot to let go of. You can fold the towel over in corners and
turn it as she gets each side soaked. If
she doesn’t get the towel that wet, it’s ok. She’s on her way to her joyous
pleasure and having you for a coach and lover is her greatest treat!
Ladies, if you are doing this alone, be sure you have
candles lit, incense burning, and a nice crystal for your spiritual
enlightenment and energy clearing. If you have emotions come up, you might want
to pause and place a hand over your heart taking deep breaths into the
belly. Be sure your phone is off and you
are taking your full attention on loving yourself. You don’t want to be in the
middle of an orgasm or squirting water and have the phone ringing or someone
knocking on your door. Always place a
sign out your door, PLEASE DO NOT DISTURB, and give your whole energy to you!
You deserve it, and now is your time.
Whoever they are, and whatever they want, it can certainly wait!
Blessings and Namaste~
